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Love: do you get it?

Why do we think love is that special? It costs nothing to produce, is in high demand, yet can’t seem to be found. It’s something we seem to instinctively recognize, yet reproduce so little of. Everybody has a different idea of what love means to them, nobody can agree on it, yet nobody is wrong. We all believe it exists, but it’s the elusive magical unicorn that we can’t seem to find. Our concepts about what love really is are as unique as we are. And though we all understand that we can’t assume people know what love is, we assume that people automatically understand what it means to us.

Love: we complain that we don’t get it, and that’s because we don’t get it.

Love is overrated. I don’t seek it, I don’t require it, I don’t want it. I don’t lack love, so I don’t go searching for it. I understand that nobody understands love, so I don’t hold it against people to deliver something they don’t know how to produce. I don’t make expectations of people, and allow them the right to not love.

And yet I have no shortage of love in my life. You could say I have more love in my life than I can find use for. Love given to me is useless.

Love is not something you’re supposed to get. It’s not something you request or demand. It’s not even something you can keep, acquire, accumulate or hoard. You don’t need people to love you, you don’t need people to do things that you interpret in your mind as expressions of their love to you.

Love is something you give. It is the only thing love is good for. It’s the only form of love that can do you any good.

Give value away freely. Grant favors. Cherish others. Evoke laughter. Inspire. Uplift.

And when you get nothing in return, that’s when you get it. When you have nobody to love you back, that’s the moment you understand. When you become a loving person with absolutely no regard whatsoever to reciprocity, you’ve become a producer of love. You become a source of love that can never be bankrupt. And that abundance can never change, under no circumstances. A person of value is never poor, and never wants. A person that loves is never needy.

It’s when you give love away, and have no desire to receive love back, that’s when you get it.


Are You a Millionaire?

Huh? Is that a rhetorical question? By definition, a millionaire is someone whose net worth (assets minus debts) is valued at 1 million dollars or more. So if you’ve done the math and the result isn’t even in the ballpark, then your obvious response is “no”.

Fair enough.

How about we look at the question from a different perspective. Consider the question: are you a farmer? No, I’m not asking if YOU are a farmer, just for you to consider the question. The definition of a farmer is one who owns and/or operates a farm. But there’s more to it than that. When exactly does a person become a farmer? I mean at what point? Is it when the harvest is picked? When the crops begin to grow? When planting begins? Can you be considered a farmer while you are preparing the soil? Our even when you first purchase the land? How far back must we go to determine if it’s ok to consider someone a farmer? What about before the land is even bought? Can you say you’re a farmer before you even own a farm? Before the farm even exists?

Of course, as much as we can sit around and contemplate the point when it’s ok for someone to apply the label, the only person really qualified to make such a judgement is the farmer himself. From the farmer’s perspective, before the crops are growing he is a farmer. Before the seeds are planted of the ground is tilled he is a farmer. Even before the first piece of equipment or structure is on the land, or the land itself is even seen, he is a farmer. That man becomes a farmer the moment he makes the decision that he will be one, even if his farm exists only in his imagination. From this point on, he does everything as a farmer. He buys farm land, equipment, seeds and tools. He works, sows, tends and waits, as a farmer would. His mind is on the welfare of his crops, the labor of the coming days, and the profits he can get at the market. His entire life is reoriented so that he can function effectively as a farmer. In every respect, he is as much a farmer at the moment he makes the decision as he is after 10 years of successful farming.

So now let’s go back to the original question: are you a millionaire? The true answer had nothing to do with your bank balance, the size of your investment portfolio, or the equity in your property or business. The answer to the question depends on one unique and personal factor that must be present in the person being asked: a decision. Have you made the decision that you are a millionaire? Have you committed yourself to adopting a millionaire role? Do you think like a millionaire? Have you declared and affirmed convincingly that you are a millionaire? If you have, then you have every right to answer the question “yes, I am”, even if the million dollars only exists in your imagination. You don’t need a financial analyst our accountant to answer this question. You can answer this question yourself the moment you make the decision.

The Anatomy of Success

Have you ever thought about the question: what is success? What really is success for you? Is there even such a thing as the right answer to this question?

The “right” answer is very simple. Success is the state of having what you want, doing what you want, and being what you want. That’s it.

Of course, there’s an enormous blank here. What do you want? Really. If you just say that what you want is to be successful, then you are going around in a circle. You need to create a picture in your mind, as definite and precise as possible, of exactly what you want to have, do and be.

For most of us, what we see as success almost always consists of the accomplishments of someone else. For example, we may be looking at the music video of a popular song, or a magazine spread of a luxurious home, or an article about a prosperous business tycoon or celebrity. And we may be thinking that it would be wonderful to live that kind of life, to be able to shop in designer fashion stores, travel to beautiful places, drive luxury cars, and, of course, have lots of money and free time with which to do these things.

It is essential to fantasize about living better and having better things. This puts us in a motivated emotional state and gives us short term inspiration to pursue these fantasies and make them a reality in our own lives. And by routinely going into these fantasy modes we can perpetuate this motivation until it becomes a habit.

However, two things are important to consider. First, and most important, we must fantasize on something very specific. It makes no sense to wish for EVERYTHING you see in every magazine, video or article you browse, or to create different fantasies each time and continually motivate yourself to pursue something different, because you will create no focus and make it impossible to formulate a path you can actually follow. Also, do not look at the success of others in comparison to what you see as a lack of success in your own life, nor that you need to get want someone else items in order for you to have it. You will see that you are going to be creating the success you desire to have through nothing else but your own creative actions. Make sure that your fantasy is singular and specific. Look at the same luxury home everyday, review the same business profile, or at least the same business field.

Second, you must put your motivation into action. Once you decide the fantasy you want to realize, and you acknowledge that you have the power to see your fantasy life become your reality, then start taking action. Even the act of planning your action is an action. You can’t just sit around watching music videos and magazines all day. Capture the motivation, then get up and start following up with action.

Get serious about success. Treat it as though you really want it. If you really want success, if you really desire to have, do and be the thing in your mind that you fantasize daily about, and if you believe and understand that by acting in a way that pursues this goal without quitting, you can and will have, do and be your desires, then there is nothing left for me to say but get going! The one and only life you have is, by immutable universal law, going to turn out exactly how your subconscious mind foretells it will be. What you think about, whether it is something you are remembering, observing or imaging, is what motivates your actions, and your actions are what bring the results of your life into manifestation.

In summary, success is a 3-part formula. First, decide on what you want your fantasy of success to be, in very definite and specific terms. Second, allow yourself to focus on this fantasy in order to generate the motivation in your mind that you will eventually realize that fantasy. Third, begin to act. Your mind, once focused on the definite goal, will begin to create the plans of action automatically, even if you are unaware of the work your mind is doing. Plans will come to you, both from outside sources, which you will be highly perceptive and receptive of, and from within you, as unique inventions of your own origin. All you must do is act upon them. Your actions are those that will always bring you closer to the fantasy that inspired them, and you will know it. So do it, never quit, and you will be successful.

The Science of Attraction

The law of attraction is a very simple natural law. I mention that it is a natural law because we must regard it as every other law of nature that exists. Just like gravity, or electricity, or momentum, or any other law of science, it is completely objective and unbiased as to the motive of its use. The laws will work exactly the same whether they are being used to constructive our destructive ends. And they are exactly duplicable in that they will always give the same result when applied under the same conditions.

So we are familiar with the theories of gravity and electricity, but the theory of the law of attraction, as being described here, is somewhat foreign territory. Of course, most other laws of nature, particularly those that involve math or physics, are taught in schools, documented in text books, and discussed in length by members of the scientific community. Laws of nature that are more of a mental nature, but are fundamentally just as valid and universal as the ones taught in schools, are less likely to be published by mainstream science, (for reasons I’m not going to get into at this time) and therefore are greeted with skepticism and sometimes even ridicule when introduced.

If I were to tell you that sowing and reaping is a law of nature, would you doubt that it were true? A seed of a particular type, if given the right conditions, will grow into a plant/organism of the same type, bear fruits of the same type, and produce more seeds of the same type as the one originally planted. This always happens. The time taken to get results, and the quantity and quality of the results, could actually be calculated to a precise mathematical measure if all the factors involved in the growth of the plant were measured. That is how exact the law of sowing and reaping is; completely duplicable and objective. Just because it is not a subject of science within the established traditional education system, that does not make it less of a science than arithmetic or chemistry.

Just like with any other science, the law of attraction is equally objective and equally exact. The same input under the same conditions will produce the same result. Acknowledging or rejecting this fact doesn’t make it any less than what it is, neither does it prevent it from acting on every one of us.

In future posts I will get into details about the forms of input, conditions and results that are affected by the law of attraction. For this post, the objective is simply to establish that attraction is a law of nature.

The Process of Creation

Whether you believe the Bible or not, it is beyond question that ageless wisdom can be found within it. Almost every great philosopher and notable figure in history has referenced some passage or saying from it. Even more than the explicit proverbs and direct quotes, a lot of wisdom can be gleaned from the principles and morals behind the description of stories and events.

Anyone who is familiar with the book of Genesis knows that it describes the process by which God created the earth and life on it. Even if you disagree with the factuality of the account, there is a deeper nugget of wisdom that the ancient authors embedded here; a powerful formula that is the key to the achievement of ANYTHING.

1. Think: The process of creation begins at Genesis 1:2. Before the first day of the 7-day project, God moved over the face of the void earth and considered the raw materials he had to work with. The decision to create life of the void planet was the first step. Accomplishing anything always begins with a decision, an idea, a vision.

2. Speak: Every day, every stage of the creation process is initiated with the declaration and affirmation that something specific is going to take place. Speaking your plans is a powerful step, as it brings your mental faculties into alignment with the next step.

3. Do: Immediately after God stated his daily goal, he employed his power toward the process of making his vision a reality. It is absolutely crucial to follow up plans with action right away. Even if the method or the process is not fully known, boldly engaging in actions towards your goal have a power in itself that can be rightly described as miraculous. You find that things start falling into place unexpectedly, resources, solutions and assistance appear from nowhere, its almost as though the entire universe is backing you.

4. Create: The process is not complete until the process is complete. The step that, in my opinion, causes the greatest challenge to any achievement is not taking action, but following through with the process. Numerous obstacles have to be overcome at this stage. The wonderful thing is, once you kick the first obstacle, the momentum builds and the subsequent challenges become easier to destroy. You simply cannot let up, because often what looks like failure is really the moment just before success.

5. Celebrate: Is this really a step in the creation process? I mean, once you’ve done created what you’ve envisioned, you’re done, right? Well yes and no. What’s the point of getting things you want if you can’t enjoy them? Take time to appreciate and be grateful for the results you’ve achieved. Congratulate yourself for the personal growth you’ve attained. Not only did God take a whole day off after the grand project was completed, at the end of each day he took in his daily accomplishment and felt good about it. Its important to enjoy the fruits of your work.

One final thought I’d like to point out is the principle of breaking down projects into sub-projects. Nobody would doubt that God, having the power to create the entire universe, could have created everything to furnish the earth instantaneously. However, breaking up a goal into smaller parts gives you a map framework with measurable milestones. Each sub-project requires all the creation elements, and each accomplish can be celebrated individually, giving that valuable motivation that will help you get to the next project.

As I said at the beginning, whether you believe that the biblical account of creation is a myth our not is irrelevant to the point I’m making here. The wisdom of the underlying principles of achievement is what is being focused on, not the historical exactness of the story. Regardless of the source, it is always sensible to acknowledge wisdom whenever possible. The accumulation of wisdom never ends.

Now go out there and start accomplishing!

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